I have had a couple of conversations with friends recently where they have told me something about another person and then added, don’t ever tell anyone what I said. In thinking of this, I found myself wondering what my friends were feeling at the time they said this to me. What were they afraid of? Judgment, I think.
What I have found in my own experience is when I am judging another, I am always judging myself somewhere in my life. It was helpful for me when I figured this out. When I would notice my judgment of another, it was a signal to me to look in my own life for what I was unhappy about.
Most of the time I can find what’s going on in my life that’s bothering me. Sometimes I am not able to, and usually that is when I pick up the phone and call another Yuen practitioner to ask for help. I am willing to look at where I have issues interfering with my ability to live my life to the fullest, so between us, we can usually find what is going on for me.
I have been listening to Patricia Sun for years and one of the things she says is, live your life as though everyone you meet can read your mind. I’ve been working on this and feel I am making great progress. It sure feels wonderful to not have a need to hide parts of myself because I don’t want anyone to know about them! It means I am open to spontaneity in my sharing, and I am also capable of bringing more of who I am into my interaction with others, because there is not a large part of my energy holding protective coverings in place around me. I like it! It is good.
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